Honor your hero with thoughts, memories, images and stories.
I miss you so very much daddy every day. I miss not being able to grow up with you and share our lives together. I can't wait until we are together again in heaven!
How has the loss of your parent impacted your family?
The bomb that took away my daddy also exploded within my family. Our family was shattered and never recovered. We never talked about my daddy and I still don't know much about him. War has a lot of unseen damage.
Tell us about your experience as a military child (i.e. duty stations, friendships, etc.).
I was never on a base. We were in private housing.
What are some memorable lessons your parent taught you?
I was too young
What did you like to do with your parent?
I was too young
What did you love most about your parent?
I was four when my daddy was killed but I remember him picking me up out of my crib and taking me to the zoo.
What did your parent bring to your family?
Stability and Love
What do you miss most about your parent?
What has been the greatest challenge since the loss of your parent?
Not having an intact family growing up. My family was very dysfunctional and I have had to deal with a lot of trauma and learn how to have a functional family on my own. I have struggled with learning how to be a good parent to my own children as my surviving parent had a lot of challenges and was not a good example.
What message would you like to share with families with a loved one still serving in the military?
I appreciate your families service to this country because the entire family is serving this country!!!!
What message would you like to share with other Gold Star families?
Grieving is an ongoing process,surfaces in many ways throughout the years and effects you in different ways. It is work that I don't think will ever be done. You can get through it though with support through groups like SDIT, Gold Star Families, etc. The best thing that has happened to me is finding these types of groups and being able to talk about your experiences with people who understand what you are going through. I recommend that you reach out on social media and find support!
What was your parent’s relationship like with you?
From what others have told me, my daddy loved me